Written by Celinka Serre
There comes a time when everyone wonders if they have found their one true love, their soul
mate. This is a normal phase for any serious relationship and it will come at different times for
I have been in relationships where I THOUGHT I was in love, but then realized it was either fear,
attachment, comfort, friendship, lust, until I met the man who is now my husband. So let me take
you through some things I’ve experienced and also learned, that have helped me know for sure
that my husband is my one true love.
FEAR VS LOVE: There are two most dominant emotions that humans experience: Fear and
Love. Love is the most powerful. Fear can sometimes be mistaken for love. This can happen
especially if there is a lack of something within the relationship or if the one experiencing fear is
being mistreated. If you feel there is a lack, then it’s certainly not love. But if you feel fulfilled, then
chances are it could be love. Worries are normal, some past experiences can create great fear
within us. Breaking the ice for the first time to speak of these fears can seem like an
insurmountable task, but once it’s done, watch for how your partner reacts. Many people will have
their own fears triggered from hearing another’s fears. If they show you understanding and in turn
express their own fear or how your fears makes them feel, the fact that they are taking the time to
express all this is a good sign that maybe you found your soulmate. Watch for this within yourself
too. Feel out how you react to your partner. You’ll know you feel love if you are compelled to
express and listen and show understanding and reciprocate this openness and transparency.
MAGNETISM: When I met my husband for the first time, we were instantly drawn together, like
magnets. Oh, we weren’t trying to hook up at the time, but we kept going back to each other to
converse together and just be in each other’s presence. That’s a clear sign. We also both felt we had
known each other for a long time, without ever speaking to each other before then. If you feel
you’ve known someone, maybe your soul has. If you feel compelled to be in that person’s
presence, and feel good when you are around that person, chances are, you are feeling love. In
addition, you know you’re with the right person if they generate energy for you, meaning that you
don’t feel drained, but revitalize. They give you energy and you give them energy. This is usually
what draws people together, the energy that is generated when they are together.
ACCEPTANCE and RESPECT: When two people are truly in love, there is not only
understanding, but a complete acceptance of the other person. You will respect your partner and
they will respect you totally. No one will try to change anyone. Change comes naturally, not forcefully, as two
people evolve together. If you begin your journey and look upon the other person as perfect
despite their flaws, then you accept them as they are, for who they are. When you can respect
your partner completely, then you probably feel love towards them.
TRUST: When you communicate honestly with someone (I wrote a bit about this a while
back) it builds trust. Trust is very important in a relationship and in recognizing if you truly love
someone. If you find yourself trying to control them, then it usually means there is a lack of trust, at
least that’s how it was for me in one of my relationships. Lack of communication, lack of honesty,
equals a lack of trust. When you are truly in love, honesty comes easily and therefore trust comes
easily. This doesn’t mean that there won’t be times when that trust is challenged, but honesty
usually comes into play to help those learning moments of your relationship.
EFFORTLESS EFFORT: Every relationship takes “effort”, but I don’t like that word. It’s not that
you need to try harder or study a lot to get it right. There will be times of friction because everyone
comes from different walks of life, people may over react because we don’t always have a handle
on our emotions. A relationship needs tender care. So this is where “effort” comes in. However,
when you are with the right person and you truly love them, this “effort” isn’t really “effort”. It
comes naturally and is ultimately effortless. You barely have to think about it. If you’re able to work
on your relationship and work through your frictions and differences and learn to be with each
other, communicate to each other and live in each other’s space, then you are making those
so-called “efforts”, and when it isn’t forced, if it feels right.
ORGASMIC ENERGIES: What do I mean when I say orgasmic energies? Well, what I
experience, and what a lot of people have described to me who have found their one true love, is
an intense energy between us and our partner. You know those butterflies you get in your
stomach when you kiss someone for the first time. Imagine those butterflies are dragons, and you
feel them in your entire body. Yes, your entire body! I say orgasmic because if you can feel the
other person, feel their energy and feel elated without even being sensually intimate, but by simply
being in each other’s arms, chances are, this person is your one true love.
SILLINESS: A lot of people have this idea that love is serious. They couldn’t be farther from the
truth. You need to be yourself around that person because you’re going to be spending the rest of
your life with them. You need to laugh together. You need to be comfortable to, let’s face it, talk
about bodily functions. That is indeed part of it. Some of you might be cringing, but if you’re still
turned on by your partner even if he or she passes gas, trust me, that’s a good sign. If you can
make silly faces, silly sounds, talk to each other in strange ways, monkey around, and be so weird
together that a stranger might look upon you and wonder what drug you are on, chances are, you
are with your one true love. Do not underestimate the silliness. And remember that silliness
happens at the most unexpected moments, including during serious moments. It’s silly to
say that when you can be silly together, your relationship has become a serious relationship.
Once the “honeymoon” phase is over, you will feel light as though that “honeymoon” phase is still
ongoing. And if you are at that stage in your relationship where you are wondering if you should
take it to the next level, if you truly love this person, then this article will merely confirm what you
already know deep within your heart.