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    The List

    Jun 16 • RELATIONSHIPS • 1189 Views

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    Oh that infamous list you’ve been holding on to since you were 15 years old. You know that list like the back of your hand. All the requirements, the characteristics, the personality traits and much more that your Mr. Right must have.  If only you knew then what you know now.

    You now know that over the years, you’ve had to adjust that list quite a few times. Hate to break it to you but you’ve been unrealistic.

    You now know that Prince Charming is a fib. Yes, Disney lied to you. Its ok, I had a hard time with that one too.

    You now know those things such as eye color and how much he has in his bank account doesn’t mean a perfect love match.

    But lets admit it, that list was a lot of fun. It’s been the discussion of many fun girls night. And every time you broke up with a guy, you added something to the list and vowed never to settle for less. The list helped you figure out what your standards were in your early years in the dating scene. It’s all good. Lesson learned. Now let it go. Like your first training bra, eventually you outgrow it and you have to move on to the grown up bras. If you insist on holding on to the training bra… well, I’ll let you visualize that. Its not a good look.

    Everyone should have standards of course. A lady always has fundamental standards that she wont compromise. I call those deal breakers and usually when you really think about it, it’s a pretty short list. As for all the rest? For one, most things in life are negotiable when you love someone and isn’t a big part of relationships about compromise? Secondly, you’ll find that the things you think you need tend to change as you grow older and have different experiences.  I met Prince Charming once. He was everything that was on my list and after two years of dating, it turned out that the list wasn’t all it was cracked up to be. So when that ended, I pulled an Adele and set fire to the rain (burned the idea of him and the list in my mind). More importantly, I vowed to never limit my heart to what life can bring me by having all these walls (i.e list, unrealistic expectations, {plug in your daddy issue here}, etc)

    Dear ladies, don’t shoot yourself in the foot with your list. While you were checking your list, the right guy for you might have walked right passed you. Be open and be loving. Don’t compromise who you are or your morals but keep an open mind to at least hear people’s story. Everyone has one and the right one just might win you over. He wont be perfect but he’ll be perfect for you.

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    SOULCOLLECTIVE Night Out #3

    Jun 6 • GALLERY • 955 Views

    Ms Charles (Collectively Beautiful) and Ms Eskander (KA Magazine) are back for the 3rd time to host Soul Collective Night Out #3. We were competing with the D’Angelo concert that night but were pleasantly pleased with the enthusiastic turnout. The Collectively Beautiful members still show up looking absolutely fabulous no matter what ;)

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    SOULCOLLECTIVE NIGHT OUT #2

    Jun 6 • GALLERY • 1026 Views

    Hosted by Cindy Charles of Collectively Beautiful, the Soul Collective events are back for the second time! Backed by popular demand, we welcomed back Alan Prater of Cafe Soul and our favourite featured artist, Ashley King. We also had Dariana Everette our guest singer opening for Ashley King. And as if we needed one more reason to party, we were also celebrating the hostess’s birthday!

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    Grace Kelly

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    To Clean or not to Clean

    Jun 4 • GIRL POWER, RELATIONSHIPS • 941 Views

     

    This weekend the Globe and Mail caught my eye with a catchy front page; Feminism’s Final Frontier. So of course I felt compelled to find out about this final frontier and most importantly, if I had crossed it or not.

    To my surprise, there was no ‘ah ha’ moment and although it doesn’t take much for me to get riled up at the thought of injustice, this article simply tickled me a little. Why? Well, is it really chocking to ANYONE that couples argue about chores? Anyone? The article states that “in a recent study, both husbands and wives chose sharing household chores as the third most important factor for marital bliss, after faithfulness and good sex.” Shocking! Not quite. Im pretty sure I’ve been arguing about chores since I was 5 years old. Whether its with siblings, roommates or your special someone, there will always be a debate regarding chores simply because no one likes to do them. Its not a feminist thing, its more of a laziness thing.

    That being said, it seems that although women are working more outside the home, they are still feeling the social pressures of maintaining the same domestic load that their stay-at-home mothers did. The reality is women (and men) are responsible for the type of partnership they have with their significant other. Some couples share the chores evenly, others don’t. Some guys do all the cooking while the girls do the cleaning and vice versa. Even if the media still predominantly uses women to sell house cleaning products and even if the women in many sitcoms are the ones keeping the house in order, it doesn’t mean that YOU have to. You can choose to do his dishes because you love him, because you’re sick of it being there or you can simply not do it. Better yet, you can date someone else who doesn’t mind cooking for you AND doing the dishes. The point is, no one is to blame but ourselves and frankly, there are much more fun things to do in the kitchen than argue about dishes…

    The article implied that some women may let household chores such as laundry impact their career choices, and as I said, that tickled me a little. Guys should help out with the household and if they do, women should appreciate it and vice versa. For those of a more controlling nature, as the saying goes: if you want something done “right” you have to do it yourself, so don’t complain. Seriously. If such a simple gender stereotype like chores can deter your from your dreams, then I think the issue is a bit more internal. Maybe its just me but give me a cause like the lack of female CEOs in this country or the gender salary difference issue when you want to tackle the discussion of feminism. But chores?! Well, lets just say I wont be burning my bra anytime soon.

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    Montreal Black Fashion Week 2013

    May 23 • NEWS & BLOG, Uncategorized • 2688 Views

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    Last week Montrealers experienced for the very first time, The International Black Fashion week. This multicultural event was put together by founder Adama Ndiaye, 10 years ago and has continued to cross borders ever since. In true Collectively Beautiful fashion, we wanted to not only support this female entrepreneur but also support the cause of fighting the underrepresentation of minorities in the fashion industry.

    Having this fashion show finally coming to Montreal is particularly exciting considering the fashion Industry seems to be quite resistant to adapt with the times. Here’s some quick facts: In 2008, NY Fashion week’s ratio of models was 87% white, 6% Black, 6% Asian and 1% Latina. More recently in the Fall-Winter NY Fashion week 2013, the ratio of models was 82.7% white, 6% Black, 9,1% Asian, 2% Latina.

    Luckily we’re in the business of making women feel good about themselves! Collectively we can challenge the media’s definition of beauty. You can do so by supporting this type of multicultural events, being aware of consumerism, and of course following your dreams! Whether it is to be a model, designer, producer, makeup artist, etc, keep pushing and make your place in the world.

    Black Fashion week was a great beginning. Beautiful models of different backgrounds, talented designers, cultural music and a beautiful church setting was quite a show to be seen. Designers: Helmer (originally from Haiti), Rush Couture by Claudette Floyd (Jamaica) and Samuel Dong (China). Also in the lineup are Elie Kuame (Ivory Coast), Emilia Torabi (Iran) and Adama Paris (Senegal).

    Sharing the love to all the beauties around the world.

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    Heels & Heart

    May 20, 13 • NEWS & BLOG

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    Less talking/more doing

    May 20, 13 • GIRL POWER

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    TO PERSEVERANCE AND DETERMINATION

    Apr 9, 13 • GIRL POWER, INSPIRATION